The Boy Crisis

The Boy Crisis✾ [EPUB] ✶ The Boy Crisis By Warren Farrell ❦ – What is the boy crisisIt's a crisis of education For the first time in American history our sons will have less education than their dads It's a crisis of mental health As boys become young men their What is the boy crisisIt's a crisis of education For The Boy PDF or the first time in American history our sons will have less education than their dads It's a crisis of mental health As boys become young men their suicide rates go from eual to girls to six times that of young women It's a crisis of sexuality Sex is a minefield for our sons They're bombarded with mixed messages afraid of being either too sensitive or not sensitive enough It's a crisis of fathering Boys with less involved fathers are likely to drop out of school drink do drugs become delinuent and end up in prison It's a crisis of purpose Boys' old senses of purposes being a warrior a leader or a sole breadwinner are fading Many bright boys are experiencing a purpose void feeling alienated withdrawn and addicted to immediate gratification Compounding this issue are addicting video games that lead to distraction and ADHDSo what is The Boy Crisis A comprehensive blueprint for what parents teachers and policy makers can do to renew our sons' sense of purpose to help them become men fathers and leaders worthy of our respect.

Warren Thomas Farrell is an American educator activist and author The Boy PDF or of seven books on mens and womens issuesHe came to prominence in the s championing the cause of second wave feminism and serving on the New York City Board of the National Organization for Women NOW However he left NOW and is now recognized as an important figure in the modern mens movementHis books cover ten fields.

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  • Paperback
  • 368 pages
  • The Boy Crisis
  • Warren Farrell
  • 13 August 2016
  • 9781948836135

10 thoughts on “The Boy Crisis

  1. says:

    I was actually really excited to read this book after hearing the author interviewed on Andrew Klavan’s podcast I have been concerned about the state of our boys since I noticed as a high school teacher that most of the kids on the DF list were boys and the ones in AP classes were girls And yes video game and porn addiction lack of father involvement—all of this is a problem Our boys need help There’s some excellent ideas about the sexism our boys face that is totally ignored and how to help expand their choices and find purpose BUT the entire book gets basically discredited in one fell swoop in the end by the section on uack tastic ADHD remedies “In simple terms homeopathic remedies turn on your body’s healing genes” Oh FFS really Come on Oh and then there’s crap about hot water therapy and chiropractic and gluten and supplements It’s a veritable smorgasbord of alt medicine nonsense And of course like any good uack he sells his very own supplements and is happy to share his website link so you too can purchase them All that is really unfortunate because our boys are struggling and Farrell basically undercut his entire argument by including John Gray’s nonsense So four stars for the first 23 and 0 for the last

  2. says:

    The Boy Crisis is yet another attack on the progress of women although as subtle as such an attack can be in a period of mass rallies for civil and human rights And I am appalled by the women who signed on to the book with rave reviews To think the authors have something against women moving up in the 21st century speaks volumes about the work that still needs to be done In every example I came across the marriage failed because the woman cheated Not only are we cheating on our partners but we are so overwhelmed and emotional that our kids prefer their fathers post divorce And why not since a wealth of research shows that children thrive with their fathers said no one ever Skimming through the text it appears the authors have a dysfunctional way of analyzing research Of course women are overwhelmed We’re still taking on a lot responsibilities than men The real research shows that even with a growing number of men choosing to parent from home women are still picking up the majority of the housework and miscellaneous duties With respect to the author’s characterization of the attention girls receive to support their growth in a productive society the authors pretend it comes at the expense of men As the mother of two boys and a girl I can tell you the girls of our lifetime still need that supportThat’s not to say that boys are sometimes overlooked My son one time complained that his 3rd grade teacher was siding with the aggressive girls in his class every time there was a conflict and I put a stop to that immediately especially after his male classmates confirmed his story with their own experiences Whether you’re running a family a business or just your intimate interactions something is bound to go amiss Our job as concerned citizens of this one world we live in is to right that wrong by striving for balance Resorting to ridiculous assumptions and stereotypes will only create a larger crisis for our boys

  3. says:

    81120I'm making an alteration to this rating My respect for it is only increasing so that should be reflected in the stars I've upped it to 5 Original reviewI cannot overemphasize the importance of this conversationAnd because this topic often becomes a target of both ridicule and dehumanization I must reiterateThis is an important and real conversation we must makeBoys and men are suffering I can take and use statistics from outside of the context of this book but even this book spells a lot of it out There are no free consultations for men's health or mental health despite the fact that 4 times as many boys between 15 20 commit suicide as compared to girls That rate increases to 6 times between 20 25Our culture tells us we must self sacrifice for everything we do Example if we have a medical problem we don't go to get it fixed either because we are less likely to be covered with medical insurance It might also have something to do with a little voice in us saying that we just need to push through despite winding up with stupidly aggravated conditionsSelf sacrifice is pervasive We are told that we must sacrifice ourselves for our country for our family for EVERYTHING As a man I can attest to this I also rebelled against it And in rebelling for years I discovered that there was no sense of purpose to replace itIn the past it was cynically transactional Men bring home the bacon while women rule the home Most of these roles have either been overturned or are widely ridiculed for than 40 years now Kids who grew up in feminist idealized schools are now middle aged Boys grew up learning that their natural biological drives are nasty and brutish and dehumanizing to women I know I didEvery man was a potential rapist if he isn't a source of income to support womenBe honest Whether you are a man or a woman How would you feel if you were only seen as either a servant or a threatOf course all the old roles are overturned Women are super unhappy and it may have something to do with their having to work as hard as men ever had to They also generally reject the idea that working than 70 hour work weeks a general prereuisite for higher positions in favor of their families In the meantime men have not received any attention to altering their own roles Think about that To attract mates we must be Alpha Males But Alpha Males are not the type of men that are allowed to thrive in schools Male teachers make up only 17% of the workforce They are generally driven out despite real cause or because they teach in ways that don't align with the political environment After all let's face it all men are fundamentally evil and the patriarchy rules everythingThe same thing is true for the field of psychology When I was getting my degree only 110 students were men and there was a very heavy focus on women's health There was no focus on men At allI am absolutely certain that the list can go on and on Let's ignore the top 1% of any field for just a moment Exceptions are not rules Look at any profession you care to Do you see the current roster of jobs being particularly welcoming to men How about becoming a nurse Most are women An agent Most are women A teacher Most are women Dangerous jobs that have a regular loss of life or a sharp decrease in uality of life is still open to men Garbage collectors Most are men Military Most are men Truck drivers Most are menI'm just spitting a few of the obvious ones outBut none of these explain the increase in the rate of suicides in the past 40 years It may hint at itIt also hints at the huge drop in academic achievement and the widespread loss of opportunities or support systems Because we are told it is a man's world none of us look at the reality of the world It does not follow Divorced men are 10 times as likely to commit suicide than womenThere are tons of studies that say outright that men want to be a part of their children's lives That their one regret was in working so much to make ends meet that they would have given it all up in order to have that one purpose in their livesWe can all look at the popular stories these days to see the deeper issues Courts systematically rule in favor of women in custody hearings Public opinion always automatically sides for women because obviously men are evil Even when confronted with facts to the contrary public opinion keeps piping up with massive assumptions that always ends with It's a man's worldI postulate that abuse swings like a pendulum One time victims will become victimizers Just look at the dehumanization aspectsAre men appreciated for what they do Soldiers commit suicide once every 65 minutes Older men commit suicide because they've come to the conclusion that their death insurance will mean to their family than their own life Men no longer have purpose Few are actually able to follow their bliss They are expected to make money PeriodBefore in the bad old times they relied on a purpose of supporting their family Showing love by self sacrifice while suppressing any other kind of sensitive emotion because it just doesn't FIT with the purpose of self sacrifice Now women are independent Unhappy but independent Divorces strip away a man's purpose just turning him into a paycheck that must put up with cultural abuse such as being called a deadbeat dad or being emotionally stunted an idiot or just plain malicious I'm being general here But damn if I don't see JUST THIS THING everywhere I lookAssume just for a moment that most men are decent people If we consider the fact that both men and women are abusers at the same rate while only one sex has the social support system to speak up about it the imbalance is very real Are children the patriarchyEvolutionary psychology is also real Boys and girls CAN learn the skills of the others but one comes naturally and the other does not Teaching boys to express themselves is useless when they know their concerns will not be heard Competition is not patriarchy Neither is roughhousing It is a major point of learning in emotional intelligence Getting a thick skin is ADAPTIVE Girls can do it even if on the whole they generally don't prefer it That doesn't mean it isn't true for boys And yet this is what even I was taught in the '80s Remember the statistic on men being teachers Corrective assumptions have made the pendulum swing way too far in the opposite directionGreat progress had been made but reform turned into retaliation Punitive measuresHere's a little thought experiment 87% of the prison population is men Black men are 4 times as likely to be incarcerated true but they are all still men If men still had a purpose their aggression could have been channeled into something positive Don't we say the same thing about boysThen ask yourself if the total situation is still getting worse and worse where men feel hopeless and cast adrift in their own lives then WHY AREN'T WE HAVING THIS DISCUSSIONFact if men and women keep alienating each other like this we are all going to suffer The grand majority of man and womankind still wants healthy heterosexual relationships Oddly enough this isn't a reactionary backlash statement designed to antagonize the LGBT community either Nor is it designed to antagonize radical feminists who would like to see total segregation of the sexesI'm merely saying that people still want healthy relationships and MOST of them happen to be hetero By dehumanizing one half of the population we have an epidemic of depression and suicide Of existential crisis Of PURPOSE And it only gets worse when we all get defensive Strangely enough one of the things that men do very well is in providing a safe space for children to roughhouse and have teachable moments It also teaches children to have expanded empathy with those who they fight with Evolutionary psychology does NOT favor this behavior with women And yet it is still essential for learning how to cope and adapt to any kind of antagonistic situationSo I can also postulate that these last 40 years spent dehumanizing men have also created an environment of people unable to cope with any kind of antagonistic situation Cancel culture IS realI may not agree with every point this book makes especially when it derails at the end with highlights on the ADHD phenomenon but Farrell obviously cares a lot about our well being and he is trying to be as all inclusive as he can be I think he does a fairly good job of illustrating a lot of the other points Men's health both physical and mental are almost completely neglected Try looking up any programs to help out men who are suffering and you might just find Alcoholics AnonymousWomen will have pages and pages and pages of free support systemsWhat would YOU feel if you happened to be male Neglected Ridiculed Unappreciated Belittled It doesn't take a rocket scientist to make anyone wonder why there is so much anger and resentment What I'm really surprised about is why there isn't MORE resentment Maybe it's because most men are good people Maybe it's because they genuinely care about their wives and children They may be in a bad position and they are told they will not hold any power but most keep on tryingThis is a two way street At least acknowledge that there is a problem Purposeless kills and it's hitting our boys the most They see how hopeless it is Give them credit They may not be able to voice these concerns but they sure as hell see the problemAddictions whether drugs or video games risky behaviors of all kinds including extreme sports apathy failure to launch obesity and anxiety are just a handful of the warning signs If you hear What's the point then know it is being said EVERYWHERE Every western country and it is growing everywhere else It is not isolated to America Not by a long shotHave these conversations with your loved ones

  4. says:

    In our modern age where girls are told they can do and be anything The Boy Crisis examines how this is not the case for boys With women having long term careers and becoming their own breadwinners young men are faced with a purpose void The increasing lack of fathers present has long term damaging effects on boys that last throughout their entire lives Health intelligence and emotional intelligence trump traditional heroic intelligence the need to sacrifice yourself to be considered manly and earn respect Our men are not disposable and young men are just as valuable as young women even though today's culture does not emulate this idea When one gender fails both genders fail A fantastic read that opened up my mind to the challenges of young boys in today's Female First world Everyone men and women should read this

  5. says:

    I usually do not go for this type of psychology book but Jordan Peterson recommended it so I had to give it a go It is fantastic All Dads and future Dads should read this It is a down to earth blueprint for doing it right with kids and how to assert your rightful and very beneficial role as Dad Essential readingAnd no it is not hostile towards women But it is very critical towards the effects of the Womens Movement And no women have no idea of what it is to be a boyDad therefore they should read it as well

  6. says:

    ‘Your mission – guiding your son to discover his mission’California author Warren Farrell PhD places his third book before the public dealing with the concept of gender – THE BOY CRISIS WHY OUR BOYS ARE STRUGGLING AND WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT IT His other two exemplary books are WHY MEN ARE THE WAY THEY ARE and THE MYTH OF MALE POWER Warren is the chair of the Commission to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men and is the only man in the US to have been elected three times to the Board of the National Organization for Women NOW in New York City In addition to starting than three hundred men and women's groups he has appeared repeatedly on Oprah TODAY and Good Morning America and been the subject of features on 2020 in Forbes the Wall Street Journal People Parade and the New York TimesIn a most significant introduction Warren states his goal in writing The Boy Crisis ‘A generation ago a boy who was a “geek” in school was subjected to derision So his parents might have tried to get him to lift weights or join the wrestling team— trying to protect him from derision but perhaps unwittingly signaling to him the unacceptability of his nature However had a book catalyzed a national discussion that helped his parents foresee how technology would allow geeks to be among the respected leaders and multimillionaires of the future they could have helped their son feel optimistic about his future and inspired to cultivate his gifts rather than lift weights in shame While no vision of the future can be perfect the goal of The Boy Crisis is to integrate the half century of national discussion about the challenges faced by girls and women with an eually nuanced national discussion about those facing boys and men The Boy Crisis explores the major causes of that crisis plus hundreds of solutions every parent teacher and policymaker can employ Since every boy is different read this book first then listen to your son to determine whether what John or I write applies to him Since “a prophet is never a prophet close to home” you may wish to give the book directly to your son so he may discover himself as well as directly to your daughter so she may love with knowledge and lead with empathy’ And it is this empathy and support that is apparent throughout this hallmark bookWarren addresses the crises in our sons’ mental health physical health economic health education and then discusses why the boy crisis isn’t our fault Never stepping into the arena of blame but always remaining on the side of support e discusses the power of purpose the ‘Hero Paradox’ why marriages in this country fail freuently than elsewhere the schism between boys who are dad deprived versus dad enriched a major exploration of the Dad role and an illuminating section on heroic intelligence versus health intelligence highlighting thoughts on boys with ADHDIn the concluding remarks Warren sates ‘Becoming a great dad is not a mission for every son Your mission is to guide your son to discover his missionNo piece of cake because there’s no precedent Our fathers did not learn to discover their mission; they learned to fulfill a mission someone else discovered The “discoverer” was the need to survive His mission was provider protector Your dad had two options be the provider protector or be a loser Which didn’t allow for uestions like “What creates the glint in my eye” He learned to be a human doing first and a human being second Or not at all Which often led him to withdraw from loving himself and ultimately from the family he loved To him feeling that his life insurance policy is valuable than his life Your mission to help your son discover his mission begins with helping him to discover himself as a human being first and then helping him find a way of being a human doing— of making a living— that supports him as a human being’This is a warm and instructive wake up call of a book ‘a comprehensive blueprint for what parents teachers and policymakers can do to help our sons become happier healthier men and fathers and leaders worthy of our respect’ Read and grow

  7. says:

    Stay away if you want to keep your peace of mindThis is ignorant partial mansplaining For some stupid reason I expected a text that sees children as children and beyond sex roles but the book is stuck in the “family” ideal How come the context can be missing from the discourse of this book Is capitalism really a given and default way of life I am sure conservatives who like to think themselves as progressives would love to read thisStatistics given without any socio economical context eg Boys who grow up without a father end up dropping out of school Ok is this the only characteristic of these boys Do they say live in poverty where their mothers are left alone to survive bring up children and work without any support networkeg Girls are successful at school Boys are falling behind We should adjust the education system to the needs of the boys to learn better and find a job to provide for their family for if they do not find a job women do not date them Hmm again ok Is it maybe boys already have a giant advantage called patriarchy that looks after them over women and women have to work three times as much to be hired by misogynists I can go on and reply to each sentence in the book The statistics are not wrong but such partial and ignorant interpretation is outrageous I almost felt sorry for men Almost tho

  8. says:

    Too bad about the title The book would be better served if it were called In Praise of Dads or something in that line I'm giving it 4 stars because it's the first book I've seen that gives the modern male perspective of parenthood in such detail Farrell repeats himself obviously passionate about his subject and dwells on certain topics that I don't agree with him on but thank God he's talking For decades now we've been taught to view men as oppressors rather than human beings I wonder what the world would look like now if we had had a Masculine Movement too in which men got up and spoke from their hearts and told the world that they want to spend time with their children that they are loving nurturing parents too and want the recognition from society that manhood is not always about being a strong ProviderHero an Absent Paycheck as it were useless in every other way who is expected to lay his physical well being and safety and not so high earning dreams down for others or be considered less than a man The fiction version of this book by the way is called The Home Maker by Dorothy Canfield Fisher if you don't think you can get through Farrell's tome

  9. says:

    Very insightful Every person in education should read this

  10. says:

    Every legislator and family court Judge and Lawyers Children need dads in their lives and family law makes that VERY difficult It’s disgusting really Please read and share with all your friends It’s time for change❤️

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