My Mother, the Psychopath: Growing Up in the Shadow of a Monster

My Mother, the Psychopath: Growing Up in the Shadow of a Monster[KINDLE] ❅ My Mother, the Psychopath: Growing Up in the Shadow of a Monster ❥ Olivia Rayne – Tbjewellers.co.uk The true story of a psychopathic mother by the daughter who survived the terror What do you do when the person you re meant to trust the most in the world is the one trying to destroy you When people The true story of the Psychopath: MOBI í a psychopathic mother by the daughter who survived the terror What do you do when the person you re meant to trust the most in the world is the one trying to destroy you When people met her they thought how lovely she was, this attractive woman with a beautiful laugh But she was one person in public and another behind closed My Mother, eBook ¹ doors Who would she be today The loving mother The trusted teacher The monster destroying my life Olivia has been afraid ever since she can remember Out of sight, she was subjected to cruelty and humiliation at the hands of her mother, Josephine Olivia grew up feeling scared, worthless and exploited Even when she found the courage to cut ties, her mother found new ways to manipulate Mother, the Psychopath: MOBI î and deceive, attempting to destroy her life with a vicious campaign of abuseNow Olivia has come to terms with her past and gives a fascinating, harrowing and deeply unsettling insight into what it s like growing up with a psychopathic parent.

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  • Paperback
  • 336 pages
  • My Mother, the Psychopath: Growing Up in the Shadow of a Monster
  • Olivia Rayne
  • English
  • 21 November 2018
  • 1785038990

10 thoughts on “My Mother, the Psychopath: Growing Up in the Shadow of a Monster

  1. says:

    I really didn t enjoy this book and got so exasperated with the author s constant whining and poor me attitude It wasn t that she didn t have a good story to tell, and she is a competent writer but this felt like a celebration of victimhood and I did not enjoy that at all.At first there was a point of idenfication, her mother switching from nice, indulgent even to uncaring and punishing The author never knew why she couldn t please her mother and tried so hard to stay on her good side I ha I really didn t enjoy this book and got so exasperated with the author s constant whining and poor me attitude It wasn t that she didn t have a good story to tell, and she is a competent writer but this felt like a celebration of victimhood and I did not enjoy that at all.At first there was a point of idenfication, her mother switching from nice, indulgent even to uncaring and punishing The author never knew why she couldn t please her mother and tried so hard to stay on her good side I had that too My mother may have been a narcissist or perhaps she was perfectly normal just didn t love me, but she wasn t a psychopath.Her mother and mine were physically, emotionally and mentally cruel to us Her father was weak and didn t stand up to his wife My father was a big, strong man who beat me and berated me and whatever else my mother wanted Both of us had grandparents who knew our mothers didn t love us and were cruel but that s where the similarities and identification ends.My mother was a normal, functioning, charitable member of society The author s was a thieving, lying, deeply ugly personality wrapped up in a sophisticated, pretty exterior that fooled almost all the people, most of the time The author had structured the book by entitling each chapter with a typical behaviour of psychopaths view spoiler Don t be fooled into thinking that psychopaths are that simple you can have a checklist I ve known two very, very well unfortunately and they are as different from each other as the author is from me hide spoiler And then illustrates it with examples of how her mother treated her It kind of worked, but it was all so polarised The mother was all evil The father was totally weak The grandparents were completely impotent And the author was the total victim The lack of nuance was wearing I don t think it was a bad book, but it s the sort of book where you have to really like the author and be there with her, and I couldn t, she was too annoying and I didn t enjoy it So I put it to one side and moved on Review 11 2020

  2. says:

    I ll prefix this by saying that I have a close family member who is without a shadow of a doubt a sociopath and possibly a psychopath too This person made my life a misery when I was younger and still tries to now Now that I have a thicker skin I react in the way I know makes this person angry by laughing at his insults and abuse then walking away I also made the promise to myself many moons ago that I would make absolutely sure I never grew up to be like him The total lack of empathy for I ll prefix this by saying that I have a close family member who is without a shadow of a doubt a sociopath and possibly a psychopath too This person made my life a misery when I was younger and still tries to now Now that I have a thicker skin I react in the way I know makes this person angry by laughing at his insults and abuse then walking away I also made the promise to myself many moons ago that I would make absolutely sure I never grew up to be like him The total lack of empathy for others, the malicious intent, anger and that facade which makes the individual seem normal to the outside world are not traits I have thankfully He s racist, homophobic and an all around nasty piece of work I am an equality campaigner who loves everybody, and friends and family would probably go so far as to say I am overly empathetic, but I am super duper fine with that I have some horrific memories, but I am all the stronger for them living with a narcissist sociopath psychopath is not a pleasant experience, and there s a reason they re known as hoovers they try to suck the life out of those around them in order to boost their own self esteem.As the traits of sociopaths and psychopaths somewhat overlap I recognise many of the behaviours Olivia experienced at the hands of her mother, and because of that this was a dark, disturbing and emotionally challenging read for me but it also gives us reason to be hopeful and tips on how to counteract the abuse The description of being one thing in public and another in private I certainly recognised the person in my life runs up the backsides of non family but treats those who should come first like dirt Make no mistake this is a hard hitting emotive read I think it hit me much harder because I could relate to Olivia and many of her experiences, unfortunately.I have never heard this person apologise for what he s done even when it was 100% him in the wrong, and he has no interest in what is happening with anyone else, just himself He s selfish through and through and one of the coldest people you ll ever meet It s crazy that he worriesabout how outsiders perceive him than he does about what his closest family think One thing I think is very important to mention if you are living a nightmare with one of these types do not show them that they have upset you Why Because in my experience they love that they get a kick out of it they feed off what they see as weakness They spend a lot of time working out the best way to upset you e.g if you ve confided to family that you have a self image issue they ll likely use that to hurt you.It s normal to think that you are the only one living with such a monster, but in reality, there areof them around than you think This is a truly heartbreaking, eye opening memoir, and although it is truly terrifying it is written in an eminently readable style I now spend time campaigning to lessen the stigma of mental health as I realise that the mental abuse I suffered every day is happening to others I have deep admiration for Ms Rayne for sharing her story and being a strong, courageous fighter against the manipulative evil she grew up with I m sad to say I connected with this so much that I found myself tearful as I relived some of the memories the book brought to the forefront of my mind Oh, and the information about cutting ties with such people is absolutely sound there is no hope of reconciliation so run as far away from these people as possible for your own sanity Like Olivia, I am a survivor and not a victim.NB This is my most personal review to date by a long shot, but I want to add that it wasn t written for sympathy, as I know some people love to play the victim, and I feelthan a little exposed by sharing this information, but I feel that it s another step in the right direction for me in coming to terms with everything I usually keep these sort of things to myself, and as I m pretty introverted I try to keep the glare of the spotlight away from myself at all times I don t understand those who crave attention I m the girl who is quiet as a mouse unless I need to defend myself it s then when I turn into a tigress.Many thanks to Ebury Press for an ARC

  3. says:

    They say truth is stranger than fiction and boy, oh, boy reading this incredibly raw and brutal account of Olivia s relationship with her psychopathic mother made my skin crawl and my blood boil.This is Olivia Rayne s TRUE story of living with a psychopathic parent The only daughter of a French mother and British father, Olivia grew up under the cruel and often humiliating control of her Mother Maman , whilst her weak and, in my opinion, spineless father just looked on helplessly This book They say truth is stranger than fiction and boy, oh, boy reading this incredibly raw and brutal account of Olivia s relationship with her psychopathic mother made my skin crawl and my blood boil.This is Olivia Rayne s TRUE story of living with a psychopathic parent The only daughter of a French mother and British father, Olivia grew up under the cruel and often humiliating control of her Mother Maman , whilst her weak and, in my opinion, spineless father just looked on helplessly This book doesn t read like a memoir, it reads like one of the worst psychological thrillers domestic noir books I ve read and the fact that it is all true makes it so muchmoving and sad.It s a difficult book to review because I found it utterly compulsive reading, gripping, tense and at times painful to read, but the fact that this is someone s actual LIFE that I am reading made my enjoyment tainted I m not naive enough to think everyone has a rosy childhood full of love, compassion and support, however I hope that now Olivia has finally written her story and shared her traumatic past, she finds unconditional love and happiness

  4. says:

    It s hard to rate books like this as I felt really sorry for Olivia all throughout the book for what she went through I admire her honesty and her strength in all she s been through and I wish her nothing but the best for her future A great, well written book.

  5. says:

    This book tells the story of Olivia s childhood and adolescence, it s a memoir but it readslike a thriller or a crime novel, and at times I forgot it was a real story and actually happened to somebody It s really descriptive and I could imagine all the characters really well, sometimes too well Josephine, the mother, is a sociopath and its scary reading how she manipulates everyone around her, especially Olivia s father, who is totally under her control This book was such a suprise to m This book tells the story of Olivia s childhood and adolescence, it s a memoir but it readslike a thriller or a crime novel, and at times I forgot it was a real story and actually happened to somebody It s really descriptive and I could imagine all the characters really well, sometimes too well Josephine, the mother, is a sociopath and its scary reading how she manipulates everyone around her, especially Olivia s father, who is totally under her control This book was such a suprise to me I don t usually read memoirs but this one had me hooked It s hard to say this is a good book because the subject matter is so disturbing and the story is so sad, but reading this book really opened my mind There are moments in the book that are unbelievable and made me livid, particularly as Olivia got older and her mother started interferingIt made my blood boil the things that Olivia was put through, especially by her mother who was meant to be the one person she could rely on This book is shocking and packs a punch you won t forget in a hurry, but it s also a beautiful book and the story is told with heart Olivia you are an amazing woman and you didn t deserve to be treated how you were by any of the people who treated you so badly I hope your mother never comes into your life again and I m so happy to read that you re in a good place with great friends and a caring boyfriend You deserve it

  6. says:

    I don t usually read books like this by that, I mean memoirs of childhood where there was trauma and abuse However, this book caught my eye in the library and wasn t in that section of the library, the real life section It was in the social services part instead Anyway, I digress it caught my eye and I picked it up, albeit hesitantly.From the moment I started to read it, I was hooked I m surprised to see it actually took me 4 days to read as I read it in 3 chunks, unable to put it do I don t usually read books like this by that, I mean memoirs of childhood where there was trauma and abuse However, this book caught my eye in the library and wasn t in that section of the library, the real life section It was in the social services part instead Anyway, I digress it caught my eye and I picked it up, albeit hesitantly.From the moment I started to read it, I was hooked I m surprised to see it actually took me 4 days to read as I read it in 3 chunks, unable to put it down It s a fantastic read that is unbelievable, upsetting, distressing and fascinating all at the same time Olivia takes us through her life with her Maman and Father and some of the stories she recalls are just horrific There are no holds barred here, and it made me cry in places There is no attempt to explain why her Maman was the way she was, which would have also interested me, but she had weaves so many falsities that who knows what was true and what was false about her life Olivia is an amazingly brave woman to write her story and to tell it It s well worth a read I can t say I enjoyed it, but I couldn t put it down

  7. says:

    interesting and disturbing story of the authors life in the shadow of her controlling and abusive mother through different channels emotional psychological and financial

  8. says:

    I m still trying to process this unbelievable story I found it hard to imagine anyone going through this abuse from their mother It felt like fiction but it was based on true events I wanted to hug Olivia and never let her go I admire the strength and courage to deal with a psychopath mother Probably the most hateful character I ve read about and I ve read about a lot of psycho s I have to give this book 5 stars because of the way it grabbed my attention and made me feel so much emotion I m still trying to process this unbelievable story I found it hard to imagine anyone going through this abuse from their mother It felt like fiction but it was based on true events I wanted to hug Olivia and never let her go I admire the strength and courage to deal with a psychopath mother Probably the most hateful character I ve read about and I ve read about a lot of psycho s I have to give this book 5 stars because of the way it grabbed my attention and made me feel so much emotion I pray she never bothers Olivia again

  9. says:

    I don t typically go for the misery memoir genre of reading because quite frankly I find much of the books that proliferated at the peak of its popularity grim, unrelenting and almost voyeuristic However when the contents move away from a catalogue of actions to somethingthoughtful, an exploration of a person, well I find that fascinating.Olivia Rayne always knew as she was growing up that other mothers didn t behave like hers but it was probablyof a slow realisation to making the I don t typically go for the misery memoir genre of reading because quite frankly I find much of the books that proliferated at the peak of its popularity grim, unrelenting and almost voyeuristic However when the contents move away from a catalogue of actions to somethingthoughtful, an exploration of a person, well I find that fascinating.Olivia Rayne always knew as she was growing up that other mothers didn t behave like hers but it was probablyof a slow realisation to making the leap to giving her the diagnosis of a psychopath This term is thrown about with a fair degree of abandon these days, thanks in part to the popularity of Jon Ronson s The Psychopath Test which educated the population that not all psychopaths are serial killers, in fact the vast majority move among us.Mothering though is generally accepted to require all the good skills, protecting, nurturing, and caring which don t square with what comes naturally to the psychopath This of course means any child born to such a parent, and you could argue particularly if it is the mother who is wired in this way, is going to suffer to some degree Coupled as these people often are to weak and ineffectual partners and the result is disaster.Rayne heads up each chapter to her memoir with a description of one of the 20 accepted psychopathic traits and then follows it with an example of her life with her mother Some of these events took place when Olivia was a small child, somerecently but many show that the face presented to the world was far from that which she used to scare and humiliate her daughter away from the public gaze Of course this methodology also allows the reader to make a judgement on the truth of what we are being told in a way that a list of awful events is less likely to have the same impact on the reader.The book is also testament to that movement that I am desperately hoping will gather pace Olivia isn t using what happened to her in childhood as a reason for behaving like a victim She s hidden her identity in part so that she can continue working amongst her peers without the prurient details defining her for everMost fascinating of all was the discovery that Olivia had broken ranks on the silence of her childhood a couple of years ago when she submitted an article about her mother to an online paper The reaction was in line with that which had occurred when she initially broke off contact, a ceaseless barrage of emails in turns abusive and appealing, not just to Olivia herself but to her boss, colleagues and friends.With a definite feeling that this book is both putting the past behind her and reaching out to others who are in this little studied relationship and giving a feeling of hope for a different type of life For that you can only applaud this brave author

  10. says:

    Olivia is the only child to Clive and Josephine Josephine is a French woman to whom appearances are very important She settles the family in one place and when they are finally comfortably she whips them off across the world and technically reinvents herself as the most wonderful mother and wife and proceeds to mentally abuse her daughter and treat her appallingly This book broke my heart as it wasn t a case that Josephine beat her daughter but the mental abuse was disturbing and in this day Olivia is the only child to Clive and Josephine Josephine is a French woman to whom appearances are very important She settles the family in one place and when they are finally comfortably she whips them off across the world and technically reinvents herself as the most wonderful mother and wife and proceeds to mentally abuse her daughter and treat her appallingly This book broke my heart as it wasn t a case that Josephine beat her daughter but the mental abuse was disturbing and in this day and age how she could get away with it bewilders me Thankfully Olivia is a resilient and strong willed lady who overcome the most horrific pain a mother could put her child through I applaud you for sharing your story and coming out the better person Thank you to netgalley and the publishers for this arc in exchange for my honest review

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